an ode to gays:
saw the last episode of oc. it was about this jock's father being gay and him finding out by accidentally walking in on him and his partner/lover at the office and how this ruins the whole family.
well it is true, utterly devastating for the wife that he wasnt honest in the first place. its like being cheated on and furthermore by another man.
for the jock, (who displays disgusting jock like qualities), the one who name-called others 'fag' and 'gay', well he had a taste of his own medicine. i wont deny that i enjoy watchin a jock crumble emotionally as much as the next non-jock, but i felt sorry for the assho... i mean, guy.
he was really close to his dad and now, its like he's lived a total lie. its like he didnt even know dad to begin with. it was heart renching.
but as all shows, he did listen to his dad and i assume they worked it all out. road to recovery and all that jazz, even though i think a divorce is inevitable.
so this is all fine and dandy and youre probably wondering when i get to my point.
patience.
this jock wanted to skip school to give everyone at school (who inevitable found out due to the awesome powers of gossip mongering) a day or two to 'adjust'. to this his friends replied that it was pointless as people are bound to remember this and well, they'll just keep on buggin you if you like it or not.
it was this that got me thinking.
'...people will still bug you about it...'
it just shows, unfortunately, that gays are still very much ostracised even in america where democracy is just about thrown into every decision.
PM Goh said this in one of those speeches that i remember watching:
'the gay lifestyle is no illegal but it is discouraged'
and i was like huh?
how can you discourage something that just is. its just stupid and tettering on the brink of communism.
if you feel that the opposite sex is not your cup or tea, or rather if you feel that you are attracted to the people of the same sex then so be it. it is not illegal. there is nothing wrong with that.
so if the problem doesnt lie in politics of legalities, where is the issue centered?
obviously this is an easy question to answer.
socially people tend not to accept gays.
why? many reasons.
firstly the older generation look upon it as a taboo. in singapore that basically covers more that 50% of the darn population. can you imagine the pressure that is placed upon you to conform when over 2 million people disagree with who you are or what your preferances might be? its horrible. a gay would probably conform for the sake of conforming, living a life of total unhappiness. poor chap.
lets now put ourselves in a hypothetical situtaion where we tragically wipe out the older generation. would this problem still exsist? i should think so.
biological factors will inevitably come into play. guys are suppose to like gals and vice versa. period.
anything else, some might say, is unnatural.
however we have to consider, the only reason that people bring up biological reason to this age old arguement is the act of copulation. that's it. sure gays cant make babies but i dont think that the first reason why someone goes in search for a partner. love is probably the main reason. i'm sure many, including the males, have had fantasies of movie-like love tales happening to them. same goes for the gays. the are in search for the right partner, just like the rest of the heterosexuals. there is nothing wrong with that.
another reason why gays are ostracised is probably because people just need to occupy themselves with such gosspis about MR who and MR who getting it on together. sure its juicy and absolutely fun to hear about (i've had my fair share of gossip mongering thank you very much. and for a loud mouth like me, its liberating. lol.) but at the same time its inconsiderate and just plain rude. i believe that eveyone has the capacity to accept. we humans have the most complex cerebrum with many folds and creveces, an indication of our intelligence and how we are more superior than the rest of the organisms on earth. acceptance is something that we are more than capable of, its just that we reufse to do it. this in turn leads to social isolation of this minority.
also, gays being the minority feel intimidated. this, unfortunately, makes it easier for the heterosexuals to pick on them and start lowering their social standing.
religon. many religons do not condone the act of being gay. this is a very difficult, not to mention touchy point to argue, but i believe that everyone is entitled to how they should feel and act even though their religon may not be supportive in general. also, religious orders should not shun gays when they need divine attention. in my opinion that is wrong and extremely biased.
no matter what i think that it is important to accept people for who they are. they are not abnormal just because they do not comform to what society expects them to be and that does not give the rest of us the right to ostracize them whenever we feel like it. just as we came to accept cultures, races and people of colour, i'm sure that we are prepared for another variation that will undoubtably keep incresing in number.
saw the last episode of oc. it was about this jock's father being gay and him finding out by accidentally walking in on him and his partner/lover at the office and how this ruins the whole family.
well it is true, utterly devastating for the wife that he wasnt honest in the first place. its like being cheated on and furthermore by another man.
for the jock, (who displays disgusting jock like qualities), the one who name-called others 'fag' and 'gay', well he had a taste of his own medicine. i wont deny that i enjoy watchin a jock crumble emotionally as much as the next non-jock, but i felt sorry for the assho... i mean, guy.
he was really close to his dad and now, its like he's lived a total lie. its like he didnt even know dad to begin with. it was heart renching.
but as all shows, he did listen to his dad and i assume they worked it all out. road to recovery and all that jazz, even though i think a divorce is inevitable.
so this is all fine and dandy and youre probably wondering when i get to my point.
patience.
this jock wanted to skip school to give everyone at school (who inevitable found out due to the awesome powers of gossip mongering) a day or two to 'adjust'. to this his friends replied that it was pointless as people are bound to remember this and well, they'll just keep on buggin you if you like it or not.
it was this that got me thinking.
'...people will still bug you about it...'
it just shows, unfortunately, that gays are still very much ostracised even in america where democracy is just about thrown into every decision.
PM Goh said this in one of those speeches that i remember watching:
'the gay lifestyle is no illegal but it is discouraged'
and i was like huh?
how can you discourage something that just is. its just stupid and tettering on the brink of communism.
if you feel that the opposite sex is not your cup or tea, or rather if you feel that you are attracted to the people of the same sex then so be it. it is not illegal. there is nothing wrong with that.
so if the problem doesnt lie in politics of legalities, where is the issue centered?
obviously this is an easy question to answer.
socially people tend not to accept gays.
why? many reasons.
firstly the older generation look upon it as a taboo. in singapore that basically covers more that 50% of the darn population. can you imagine the pressure that is placed upon you to conform when over 2 million people disagree with who you are or what your preferances might be? its horrible. a gay would probably conform for the sake of conforming, living a life of total unhappiness. poor chap.
lets now put ourselves in a hypothetical situtaion where we tragically wipe out the older generation. would this problem still exsist? i should think so.
biological factors will inevitably come into play. guys are suppose to like gals and vice versa. period.
anything else, some might say, is unnatural.
however we have to consider, the only reason that people bring up biological reason to this age old arguement is the act of copulation. that's it. sure gays cant make babies but i dont think that the first reason why someone goes in search for a partner. love is probably the main reason. i'm sure many, including the males, have had fantasies of movie-like love tales happening to them. same goes for the gays. the are in search for the right partner, just like the rest of the heterosexuals. there is nothing wrong with that.
another reason why gays are ostracised is probably because people just need to occupy themselves with such gosspis about MR who and MR who getting it on together. sure its juicy and absolutely fun to hear about (i've had my fair share of gossip mongering thank you very much. and for a loud mouth like me, its liberating. lol.) but at the same time its inconsiderate and just plain rude. i believe that eveyone has the capacity to accept. we humans have the most complex cerebrum with many folds and creveces, an indication of our intelligence and how we are more superior than the rest of the organisms on earth. acceptance is something that we are more than capable of, its just that we reufse to do it. this in turn leads to social isolation of this minority.
also, gays being the minority feel intimidated. this, unfortunately, makes it easier for the heterosexuals to pick on them and start lowering their social standing.
religon. many religons do not condone the act of being gay. this is a very difficult, not to mention touchy point to argue, but i believe that everyone is entitled to how they should feel and act even though their religon may not be supportive in general. also, religious orders should not shun gays when they need divine attention. in my opinion that is wrong and extremely biased.
no matter what i think that it is important to accept people for who they are. they are not abnormal just because they do not comform to what society expects them to be and that does not give the rest of us the right to ostracize them whenever we feel like it. just as we came to accept cultures, races and people of colour, i'm sure that we are prepared for another variation that will undoubtably keep incresing in number.
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